The reasons for his rupture are often very traumatic or very painful for any member or to the two (infidelity, cheating, discussions, mistreatment) and resentments impede what couple then reconciled despite the fact that in many cases it is still love and affection. When the couple starts to malfunction on the grounds that there is no doubt that it is responsibility of the two trying to take it in the right direction, however not always and very often is one of the members making victim and another responsible for everything. Before these two roles is difficult to reach agreements. The victim shall find allies in your environment to continue instilling the other responsibility and guilt in the situation they are experiencing. When a person goes from victim to rupture it implies that it will not do anything to solve the problem, with which is very sure that he is not guilty and that who has to change is the other. This attitude is nothing more than a way round a problem that depends on two persons, because two are a couple.
Even in cases in which it is very clear that the other has committed a fatal error (infidelity, for example) the affected Party also owns some responsibility since anyone searching for a third if things work. If they don’t work for something and there will be if you have some responsibility. If you have read about Boy Scouts already – you may have come to the same conclusion. Why me woman I have been unfaithful? How I’ve worked on it? Rarely we ask that question and we took refuge in the victimhood to not tackle a problem. Loss carried out break once appears mourning the loss of a loved one. Each person will be valued differently: some remake her life right away and others maintain a duel for months, even years, without actually solving the problem. Overcoming the breakdown at this stage of overcoming of rupture, appear many conflicting and contradictory feelings and it is difficult to opt for a coherent attitude.